by Wes Penre, January 1, 2020
In the beginning, “God” created man and woman. He made man physically stronger than the female counterpart. The man became the hunter and the protector of the family, while the woman became submissive to the man. The man made the major decisions for her and the family, and his word was to be followed.
The man became the King of the household–yes, KING. Remember, En.ki created construct based on a patriarchal structure, where the woman should be “inferior” to the man. This was suppressing the Divine Feminine inside us all.
This has followed us up through the generations all the way into the 1970’s, when there was a Women’s Liberation movement. That movement was intentionally orchestrated by the Rockefellers (who have admitted to that) to confuse the sexes, so no one knew their place in the family anymore. It destroyed the family unit and created confusion and trauma in both sexes, as well as additional separation.
Up to this day, because of our genetic programming, many women still feel they need a man who is assertive, outgoing, protective, and a decision maker to feel safe. If the man can’t live up to this, she feels insecure and unsafe, and it can even split up a relationship.
Remember that this is a construct created by a patriarch–En.ki. What does this strict role play create in a society, and for the sake of this article, a relationship? The following might be controversial and stir up a lot of emotions, but it needs to be discussed, in my opinion.
Does the male/female role play create unique safety and security for the woman–or even the man–in the first place? We are all feminine in essence, and whether we are men or women, we have both these driving forces inside us. By putting men and women in a box and not letting their polarity play an equal role in both sexes, we suppress our spiritual development, and it creates separation–not unity. This was done on purpose. The archetypal gender roles were set up to create separation and competition between people–not unity.
In a traditional relationship, going back to the “caveman,” so to speak, where the gender roles are clearly defined by rules, will the woman really feel safe and secure? Yes, on the surface. What if the man loses his job? What if he stops loving her and leaves her, then what is she going to do? She needs another man to fill that spot to feel secure, or she needs to develop her masculine traits and become more in tune with her masculine side, suppressed and buried inside her, in order to survive. But isn’t that the way it should have been to begin with? Shouldn’t both gender have developed both masculine and feminine traits, so they, if necessary, automatically know how to feel safe and secure on their own and with each other, and use these energies interchangeably when a particular situation requires it?
If so, how do we break this pattern, and how can both men and women feel safe and secure in their relationships, friendships, and in life in general? The answer is through TRUE intimacy!
What does intimacy entail? Of course, important are body contact (hugs, kisses, and physical touch and closeness), and for most people–sex. But the MOST important ingredient in intimacy is the ability to show VULNERABILITY. Because we humans are so wounded–no one is an exception from being emotionally wounded to some degree–we have a difficult time being authentic. We are very reluctant to sharing our true emotions. When we were children, many of us were taught that our emotions, needs, desires, and opinions did not count, unless they coincided with the parent’s. This is detrimental to a child, and the trauma resulting fro this will follow and affect them through life. People become very afraid of emotions, and when someone expresses them, others push them away or ridicule them because they themselves don’t know how to deal with someone who is authentic or how to deal with their own suppressed emotions. This is particularly surfacing in love relationships, and it needs to be healed for a person to feel true joy and happiness.
One of the first things a couple might want to do when they get together is to express their needs and desires to the other one. Then, they both do what they can to fulfill these needs within themselves and in the other person. As a result, we’ll see the other person get very happy, and that makes us happy. We can NOT do this without simultaneously heal our inner child—the two go hand in hand.
When both parties in the relationship have started to trust their counterpart with their emotions and vulnerabilities, something extraordinary happens. The two will incrementally become extremely close to each other. They will know each other in and out, and what does that create? It creates GENUINE safety and security in BOTH parties, and the problem is solved to a very large degree. Both will heal many of their emotional wounds by being vulnerable with each other; knowing that whatever they tell the other person, it will be well received, regardless of what it is. What makes us not being able to express our emotions is the fact that we were not allowed to as children. So, we suffered and shut off our emotions and authenticity as a coping mechanism. Therefore, daring to be intimate with a friend of partner heals the inner child.
Have you ever experienced in a friendship or love relationship that when your partner is being vulnerable and tells you stuff you didn’t know about him or her that you feel an additional connection with that person and you actually feel that you love him or her even more? We are aware that often it can be triggering to listen to our loved one being vulnerable, as well as being vulnerable to others, but when we manage to keep the subconscious mind in check, we can feel this extra connection, and it’s healing for both parties, because our wounds are not so dissimilar after all.
We could ask ourselves why we love artists who express vulnerability in their lyrics and/or music. It’s because they are doing what we want to do and have a partner to do, but we dare not. We recognize our suppressed vulnerability in the artists, and we love them.
Being intimately connected with someone else, whether it’s in a love relationship or in a friendship makes both parties not twice as strong and secure, but exponentially so. In such a relationship, where both parties are healing by interacting with each other on a deep, authentic, emotional level, they get their needs fulfilled, they heal their childhood wounds, and they become stronger, more assertive, and much more secure within themselves. They are no longer dependent on each other for their emotional and physical well-being. As they support and strengthen each other, they both become stronger. It’s a win-win situation, compared to the separation that occurs in a programmed, traditional relationship that does not lead to true connection and intimacy. Such a relationship only suppresses our fears, at best, but is counter-productive. It can be a long and painful process to open up to somebody, but the reward long-term is worth going through the pain.
Narcissistic relationships work, in the sense that the wounded codependent does not need to be vulnerable and intimate. The narc is not interested in that–only a false intimacy when it satisfies a hidden agenda. Therefore, the codependent doesn’t need to face their shadow side. Yes, the codependent gets even more wounded and triggered, but many choose that before having to face their painful emotions/shadow side.
When we were the Namlu’u on Tiamaat, we were androgynous, so there were no genders, as we know genders. Each Namlu’u had both masculine and feminine traits, and gender-wise, they could be both and either or.
In Orion, not every star race is androgynous–it seems more common that they are not. I was told that in Orion they have genders, and the female is the creator of ideas, and the male executes them.
We, on the other hand, who were androgynous, (and I think this goes for our soul energy, as well–not only the Namlu’u bodies) still feel that we have both feminine and masculine energies inside, whether we are males or females. We are essentially androgynous, even on a soul level.
En.ki separated us into two genders, which seems to be the most common standard in the KHAA, but because we are different and androgynous inside, we have, ever since En.ki separated the sexes, been trying to merge with the other aspect of us to become androgynous again. This could be why we humans have such a need for intimacy.
True intimacy is something the Overlords do not want us to successfully achieve because that would heal our childhood wounds, and we would be much too powerful for them.
Remember, the most courageous thing you can do in this 3-D life is to dare to be authentic and vulnerable because it has everything to do with overcoming our fears, which is the root to all abusive and dysfunctional behavior.